Comments on: Preparations To Be Together For An Unknown Period of Time Explanation

By: Taylor Holmes

Taylor Holmes — Sat, 21 May 2022 00:55:57 +0000

@Eleni – I’d comment – but can confirm – am man.

taylor

By: Eleni

Eleni — Fri, 20 May 2022 23:05:26 +0000

Kelly kay your text is full of stereotypes. “This is what happens when a woman feels up her heart with her profession and doesn’t get to experience love and connection”. Wtf seriously? Also something you said about age and children. It was a very disgusting comment coming from a woman.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Sun, 21 Nov 2021 16:02:08 +0000

I like what you’re saying. It’s definitely possible! She wasn’t a very reliable narrator.

By: Lauri

Lauri — Sat, 20 Nov 2021 23:42:36 +0000

I’d like to offer an alternative explanation as I saw the ending fold out. It’s important to understand the whole movie is seen from her point-of-view perspective. She realized he wasn’t real, that is, he was real as her love interest only in her mind (think of similar tricking as we saw in “The Sixth Sense” and “The Fight Club”). She closes all the shutters and the bedroom goes pitch black and she enters it (that’s the last we see her alive, according to my theory). Then all we see are the man’s POV only which actually is her POV, explaining it all to her. Then comes seemingly a new scene where the huge loudspeaker is delivered (but it’s actually the last moments of her own POV inside the dark bedroom) and still it’s seemingly the man’s POV. Then we see the loudspeaker hanging which could be the suggestion that it is her hanging in the bedroom. From the hanging loudspeaker shot there’s a cut to black. She dies. End of story. I must admit I had the sense that the director is tricking with the viewer (in the sense he only interacts with her inside her mind/wishful thinking) somewhere in the middle of the film or even slightly earlier and most scenes seemed to corroborate it (such as the scene after them having sex where he had disappeared in the morning, the arrival of Helen from the USA, and also the finding of the phone in her apartment). All of these seemed to take place only inside her head. And that suggested me the ending I just described. It all fitted in nicely. I don’t know, it’s just my opinion. Sorry if my thoughts aren’t as clearly stated for English is not my mother tongue.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Sun, 15 Aug 2021 15:07:18 +0000

PS- why does everything these days have to be man versus woman?

By: Lisa

Lisa — Sun, 15 Aug 2021 15:05:34 +0000

Mansplaining? Now that’s a bit much. Taylor is many things but not one of them includes being a misogynist. This is a site where we have fun dissecting movies how we see them and is mostly a judgment free zone. I found both of the main characters to be socially and emotionally stunted and I don’t think he was trying to tell her what she needed with the stereo system but rather trying to open her up to something that could bring joy. I know music brings me joy and I’d be lost without it.

By: Taylor Holmes

Taylor Holmes — Sun, 15 Aug 2021 02:51:34 +0000

In reply to Kelly Kay.

Fair ’nuff.
I’ll shut up then! I had a few complimentary things to say about your theory… but I’m a man. hahahaha.

Interesting insights all the same. Thanks for the well thought through theories and ideas.
Taylor

By: Kelly Kay

Kelly Kay — Sun, 15 Aug 2021 02:27:52 +0000

I find the irony too much, that you (Taylor), a man, is trying to mansplain to us women what this movie is about….even going so far as saying that Lili is wrong about her own interpretation of her own movie!! ahem. Seriously. I hope you were writing sardonically there, intentionally!!….anyway….

In my humble (female) perspective, this movie is about what a professional, intelligent woman’s mid-life crisis looks like. It is not sports cars and trips to Vegas. It is subtle, yet equally as life changing: a searching for meaning and connection. A willingness to risk it all for love. Did she succeed? Was it worth it?

Women do project love that may or may not be there ALL the time. I know because I work with clients who have fallen head over heels with their ‘soul mate’ or ‘twin flame’ even if they’ve barely talked. Do you know who it happens to most often? Those who have experienced loss of a parent at a young age. Did our main character here not mention that both her parents died before she left for the US?

And yes, men do often make promises they don’t keep or try to gaslight what really happened or was said. It’s sad, what this does to people. It crushes some people’s trust in their own internal perception forever.

To me, this is a film about a beautiful, highly intelligent and successful woman wanting to be Seen. Seen and respected at work. Seen by the man she thought she loved who could finally see her too (and I’m sure it helps that he on her level professionally). Seen, and understood, by her therapist. And maybe, someday, even she can truly see herself.

But the farce of the totally wrong stereo system shows this movie to be a tragedy. He does not see her or what she needs. The very awkward masturbation scene makes you wonder if she even knows what she needs. She doesn’t know what she wants professionally either- she tossed away her height of success. Why? Maybe not just for a man, but for a chance for something new in her life: joy. Adventure. She is almost 40, never married, no children. Works 7 days a week. It’s not enough for true happiness and satisfaction. For a man, maybe. For a woman, usually not.

This is what happens when a woman tries to fill her heart through her profession, without love or connection. I hope, someday, this kind of intelligent, accomplished woman is finally deeply Seen. And respected. And loved.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 04 Aug 2021 15:10:34 +0000

Hahaha yup. She was a bit nuts to give her whole career up as s brilliant neurosurgeon to chase some guy down thousands of miles away!